10 Ways To Realign With Your True Self
It should be easy to align with your true self, right?
If you answered yes, I agree with you.
It should be easy, but too often we let other things get in the way of our true expression.
We wind up stifling who we are just to please others, we give up on things that we really want to pursue because we don't think we are capable sometimes, and we even let others tell us how we should feel & who we should be.
So that thing that was supposed to come so natural to you (being yourself), winds up getting lost as you travel through your life trying to fit in.
If you've lost your way & aren't sure how to get back to the "true you", don't worry - I got you!
Here Are 10 Ways To Realign With Your True Self
1. Ask For What You Need
This is so important.
Sometimes we wish that people would understand us and read our minds. The truth is - they can't. So in order for you to stay true to yourself, you have to ask for what you need. Everyone doesn't pick up on sensitivities and details the way that you may, so it's best that if you need something - just ask.
2. Stand Up For Yourself
How many times have you let a relative walk away after saying something nasty to you, and you didn't respond? You then sit there later wishing you would have said something to that person, but you didn't have the courage to do it.
Instead of regretting not saying something later on, speak up when it happens.
Don't harbor your emotions. Stand up for yourself, and voice your concerns about how that person is treating you. Sometimes people just don't realize how they are acting. Communication is the key.
You can certainly voice your opinion and concerns in a way that is easy for others to comprehend.
3. Follow Your Joy
Yes, yes, yes - it is okay to follow your joy! Try to do this without fear as well. Don't be afraid that just because something good happens to you, something bad is going to come and take its place. That is a negative way to view things.
There's always room for more joy, and more joy, and more joy. Don't dampen the fun by fearing that something will go wrong. Accept the moment and be present in it.
4. Adjust Home
Adjust home is a term I like to use that means return to your center. You know your place of peace. When things seem to not be working out the way that you had planned, do yourself a favor and don't get so upset. Adjust home.
Find your center and realize that every delay is not a denial.
Practice adjusting home in your moments of doubt, uncertainty, and fear. It's a great skill to learn because it shows you that you don't need the outside conditions to change in order to find your place of peace internally.
5. Follow Your Curiosity
If you're curious about something - explore it.
Following your curiosity is a sure way to realign with your true self. You have your curiosity for a reason. How many times have you been intrigued by something, followed that impulse to explore it, and found out something great or new about yourself?
Get those thoughts out of your head and onto paper.
Write out your feelings without judgment so you can get to see what goes on in your mind and how you really feel about stuff. Journaling helps you get a better understanding of yourself and why you feel the way you feel.
Explore some of your deepest yearnings and fears by writing down the truth.
7. Accept Your "Good"
There may be a million reasons why you think you can't forgive yourself or you think that you are unworthy. There may be a million more reasons why you think you are a bad person or that you deserve the life that you have (if it isn't going so well).
I am here to tell you - erase all of those thoughts.
You are dishonoring yourself if you are holding a grudge against yourself for something you have done in the past.
You are intelligent, you have a source that is filled with possibility backing you, and you are capable of turning things around. Don't fill your head with thoughts of you being unworthy or bad.
You may have made a mistake, yes, but to punish yourself over and over again for it is not doing anyone any good, and it's keeping you from the newness that is trying to enter your life.
8. Follow Your Heart
What is it that you have been aching to do, but you haven't gotten around to it yet? Your impulses are very important.
As a matter of fact, your impulses are drives within you that are leading you exactly where you desire to be.
- So go and take that trip to a museum that you've been wanting to go to.
- Go and dust that easel off and start painting again.
- Go and take up that dance class that you've been wishing you could take up.
The yearnings of the heart are not going to go away, so it's best if you honor them. Following your heart is a sure way to realign with your true self.
9. Acknowledge Your True Feelings
This is important as well. Say life sucks when life sucks. Say you're angry when you're angry. Sugar coating how you feel, does not make it go away.
As a matter of fact, the more you deny how you feel, the more it will kick and claw its way to the top to make itself known. Be honest with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with being angry. It's a feeling. It lets us know where we are at the moment, and it also lets us know that there's some readjusting that needs to be done.
10. Practice More Self-Love
Give yourself the benefit of the doubt sometimes, ease up, and laugh at your mistakes.
- When you realize you're talking negatively to yourself - readjust your thoughts.
- When you realize you're settling or not giving yourself the best - change it.
- When your inner critic comes up and tries to put his or her input in - say "no thank you" (here's a free quick meditation to help soothe the negativity of the inner critic).
You've listened to your inner critic and your negative thoughts for too long, and it's time to show yourself a little compassion and love.
Keep practicing these things until they feel natural to you, and you'll realign with your true self in no time. You are imperfect and still worthy (here's a free desktop wallpaper to remind you of this). Embrace all of your facets. That's another way to align with your true self.
Do anything that you can to realign with your true self (your joy, your center, and your awesomeness).
I hope these tips help you along your journey.
Live Well & Keep Creating!